The second question

I had this urge to play coldplay's 'the scientist' on piano. I can play the melody but I needed help on the chords. So I sat there for a good one hour practising whilst my mum was playing Wii fit.

Masters is a life sentence. I didn't anticipate the amount of time that you have to set aside a week to keep up with the work load. And not the mention the weekly group meetings. It requires committment and a strong work ethic, which I never really had. But I'm sure that is about to change. I am paying for it at the end of the day.

MPM. Match, pledge and marry.

Its a great class. For so long I've adopted a 'worldly' take on how relationships are meant to work. I convinced myself that you should date for five to six years before you get married. In my case I plan to get married by the age of 30 and putting my ideals into context, that would mean I should find someone before I turn 23 or 24. Does it take five to six years to know that its right? For example lets say if it wasn't right. I just wasted six years of her life. With that in mind, I don't want waste a few years of someone's life. Perhaps they would have come across their 'match' in the years that I didn't date her. Back to the question of how certain one can be? If I was so certain that she was the one for me then why would I have to wait five years. You see, I had this preloaded, 'world' thinking that says you need time to clarify, a need to try out. And I had wished I never believed in this.

Try out? If you know that its not right from the beginning then you shouldn't have entered into the relationship in the first place. She is someone else's daughter after all. I may sound pretentious but I admit my wrong doing. Which is why I'm blogging about this. I wasted three years of her life, needlessly. On the back of my mind I still think if I had met her when I was 26 I would have been able to settle down with her.

"Is he or she the right one?" is the wrong question to ask. The right question, which the Scriptures teach is this one, “Is he or she the right kind of person to marry?" Prov.18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good, and receives favor from the Lord."

I asked the wrong question the first time. What I should have asked was the second.